"“Social workers tend to consider the children’s wishes as long as their preference is for maternal custody. When children express a paternal preference, their wishes carry no weight."

"Dads were user-friendly for companies, because they could most easily be used."

"If your son is nontraditional, he needs to know that the most important work of his life is selecting a woman who is free enough from social constraints to free him from social constraints."

"The male-female pay gap is not a gap between men and women; it is a gap between moms and dads."

"Your son is unlikely to choose to be a “father warrior” if he doesn’t feel two things: first, a sense of purpose; second, that his contribution will be pivotal. So his role in the checks and balances of parenting requires a deeper dive."

"The word “warrior” is not added lightly. A warrior makes himself aware of the barriers to achieving his purpose. Then, rather than focus on what is standing in his way, a warrior focuses on how to get past those barriers. Which is exactly what he’ll be teaching his children."

"Divorced men are almost ten times more likely to commit suicide than divorced women from similar backgrounds."

"In a study of more than twelve thousand teenagers after divorce, children living with single dads fared better than children living with single moms."

"Two-parent stability trumps geographical stability."

"Children express intense dissatisfaction with the traditional arrangement of every other weekend."

"Parenting plans should be consistent."

"If female-to-female teasing and hazing does occur, as in Mean Girls, it signals that the woman being teased and hazed is on the outs, not that she’s being vetted for inclusion."

"Especially in the military, hazing helps recruits amputate each other’s individuality because the war machine works best with standardized parts, not with people who say, “I’m special.”"

"Married couples who tease each other during conflict feel more connected and happier after the conflict than those who criticize in a straightforward way."

"Among guys, if you can’t tease ’em, you can’t trust ’em."

"The trading of wit-covered put-downs is boys and men training each other to handle criticism, unconsciously knowing that the ability to handle criticism is a prerequisite to success."

"The exchange of wit-covered put-downs is boys’ and men’s unconscious way of training each other to handle the criticism it takes to become successful."

"When Martin teased, he taught Maggie and Marty Jr. to interpret the meaning of a twinkle in his eye, slight alterations of his voice, shifts in his facial expression."

"Playing with dad is like being on a roller coaster—kids are excited because they feel safe."

"Working from home requires self-starting. And children raised with poor boundary enforcement rarely master the postponed gratification that self-starting requires."

"Empathy is a virtue which, when it only goes from parent to child, and is not required of the child, becomes a vice."

"Teaching a child to treat boundaries seriously teaches him or her to respect the needs of others."

"“My mom warns and warns; it’s like she ‘cries wolf.’ My dad gives us one warning, and then he becomes the wolf.”"

"While the Moynihan Report identified the quarter of black children born outside marriage as a crisis with a solution in 1965, today the percentage of white children born outside marriage is 36 percent."

"The Moynihan report concluded that in a majority-black community the main predictor of growing up poor was not race but being born to parents who are not married. Why? A predictable outcome of no marriage was no father involvement."

"Half of children born to mothers under thirty were born outside marriage."

"When unmarried couples live together when their child is born, by the child’s third birthday, 40 percent of those children will have no regular contact with their dad for the next two years—between ages three and five."

"When children in homes with less income and more father were compared to children in homes with more income but less father, there was no difference in the rates of violent crime."

"Students coming from father-present families score higher in math and science even when they come from academically weaker schools."

"Father absence is not just correlated with negative outcomes but actually causes negative outcomes."

"Even when race, education, income, and other socioeconomic factors are equal, living without dad doubled a child’s chance of dropping out of high school."

"The gender gap in education might really stem from sons’ greater vulnerability to father absence."

"The gap in sentencing is six times greater for men versus women than it is for blacks versus whites."

"When he is convicted, on average your son will receive a 63 percent longer sentence."

"Prisons are centers for dad-deprived males—boys who never became men."

"The desire to be a father begins in the son, who sees in his own dad who he could become."

"Father involvement is an underused resource in the family in the same way that female involvement has been an underused resource in the workplace."

"The absence of Dad creates the presence of government."

"Careers are for Now, Children are Forever."

"After divorce or loss of a father, both girls and boys experience unhappiness, but especially with divorce, girls’ grief eases within a year or two, while boys’ does not."

"And when boys are hurt, they hurt us—physically, psychologically, and economically."

"Dads—like moms, air, and water—are essential to our lives."

"The boy crisis cannot be solved, then, without addressing the most important single crisis in developed countries: dad-deprived children, and especially dad-deprived boys."

"The solution—raising a balanced male—requires blending the best of the traditional male with the self-actualized male."

"The discipline of postponing gratification is the single most important discipline your son needs."