"In my forty-five years of forming men’s groups, I have never heard of a man who was actively involved in a men’s group being hospitalized for depression, or commit suicide."

"With confidentiality as the key, men’s groups open the door to men opening their hearts."

"When the National Association of Social Workers studies suicide, they study only female suicide."

"There is almost no difference in the percentage of men versus women experiencing depression."

"Suicide is contagious."

"Whether via forced unemployment, retirement, or loss of spouse, men’s response of suicide can just be the killing of what has already been killed."

"By age eighty-five, men’s suicide rate is 1,650 percent higher than that of women the same age."

"The male-female suicide gap in the United States has tripled since the Great Depression."

"The bully who is healed is the best protection for the bullied."

"Counterintuitively, when it comes to a loss of friendships and love, your son is the more vulnerable sex."

"The rate of PTSD among boys who moved to better neighborhoods was like the rate found among soldiers returning from combat."

"Between ages thirteen and sixteen, boys show a temporary decline in empathy on a biological level—a decline not suffered by girls."

"Compassionate listening positively affects the development of an adolescent’s brain in a way that affects the rest of his or her life."

"When a potential girlfriend hears a guy complain, it violates her instinct to be protected; but when a mom hears her son complain, it triggers her instinct to protect."

"You can easily feel judged and alone if you are the only one to understand that your son’s anger is the mask of his vulnerability."

"The more your son wishes to be part of the elite, the more he will abhor being pitied. Yet boys who join the elite today are often the ones who are pitied tomorrow."

"Even if a soldier lives, the risks of war come home with the warrior—that for every soldier killed, about twenty-five veterans kill themselves."

"Tackle football is using taxpayer money to risk the minds and bodies of only our sons before the age of consent."

"“Flag football is so much more about strategy. You can’t ‘take someone out’ with your body, so it’s more about your mind.”"

"Tackle football is a body-mind sport; flag football is a mind-body sport."

"We teach boys to associate being abused with being loved."

"Among former college players, 56 percent suffered from severe CTE pathology, which was associated with signs of dementia 85 percent of the time."

"Preserving the best of traditional masculinity should be a priority of parents because your son is preoccupied with the paradox of learning how to simultaneously fit in and stand out."

"We have taught boys that, while building strength is considered masculine, preventing its loss is feminine."

"If a good woman is killed, a man is to blame."

"Even if your son tries to use his power to save a woman, if he fails, that power will implode."

"If the life of a beloved woman—whether romantic partner or mother—is at risk, his life is at risk."

"Hollywood plants the seeds for male-only draft registration."

"The female superhero’s lack of sexual neediness makes her a “super” superpower."

"If your son is unclear as to what a highly powerful woman wants from him, he is more likely to go for a woman who is less powerful who has some need for him."

"Does the new heroine mean your son won’t have to risk his life for her love?"

"A desire to be nurtured is in our son’s nature. But it’s a nature we don’t often nurture."

"To be a hero is to be emotionally constipated."

"Both parents’ cumulative health creates your son’s health; your son’s health begins before his beginning."

"The male-female life expectancy gap has grown almost 400 percent."

"When boys and men are told they are needed, they respond, and become responsible."

"Guns are not the cause of the boy crisis, but as we are working on the causes, the control of guns can limit the damage of dad-deprived sons."

"In the almost 20 years following Australia’s change in gun policy, mass shootings fell to zero."

"If we get more of what we pay for, then let’s pay to get more dads, rather than pay more when dads are absent."

"Our “cultural shrug” toward both the boy crisis and father involvement has led to no significant government effort to reduce the presence of government by increasing the involvement of dads."

"We spend billions to get from dads the money few of them have, and virtually nothing to allow dads to give the time they do have—the time their children need."

"Three-quarters of dads who were in South Carolina jails for being behind in child support payments suffer from extreme poverty. And one-eighth of all South Carolina inmates are in jail for being behind in child support payments."

"Mastery of content that is measurable, tangible, and translates into respect."

"The future will increasingly see the home place becoming the work place."

"“The best parent is both parents” means mommy is no substitute for daddy, money is no substitute for daddy, and another man is no substitute for daddy."

"If your son sees being an oppressor as his future, being a failure to launch might look like progress."

"When the house is clean and the bills are paid, the effort our partner makes to keep things the same are invisible exactly because things are the same."

"But a happy marriage is less about money, children, or lack of sex than about how we communicate about money, children, or lack of sex."