"The hardest thing about implementing boundaries is accepting that some people won’t like, understand, or agree with yours. Once you grow beyond pleasing others, setting your standards becomes easier. Not being liked by everyone is a small consequence when you consider the overall reward of healthier relationships."

"The ability to say no to yourself is a gift. If you can resist your urges, change your habits, and say yes to only what you deem truly meaningful, you’ll be practicing healthy self-boundaries. It’s your responsibility to care for yourself without excuses."

"Tell people what you need."

"We can't stop others from neglecting us, but we can stop ignoring ourselves."

"The most important question you need to answer is What do you want for your life? Bear in mind that what you want might not currently exist in your family."

"Resilience is the ability to embrace what happened."

"understanding breeds grace."

"You aren't what happened to you."

"We don't naturally fall into perfect relationship; we create them"

"Boundaries will set you free. (Introduction)"

"Honesty isn’t betrayal; it’s courage. Stop sugarcoating your experiences and allow the truth to free you. People often misrepresent their relationships and experiences because they’re too afraid to admit what’s true. But denial will keep you from breaking free from your past."

"What you're searching for in others lies within you."

"Be the person you would have looked up to in childhood."

"How they treat you is about who they are, not who you are."

"It’s okay for a small child to set limits like not eating meat or feeling uncomfortable around certain people. Parents who respect those boundaries make space for their children to feel safe and loved, and they reinforce the positive habit of articulating needs. When parents ignore these preferences, children feel lonely, neglected, and like their needs don’t matter—and they will likely struggle with boundaries as adults."

"Remember: there is no such thing as guilt-free boundary setting. If you want to minimize (not eliminate) guilt, change the way you think about the process. Stop thinking about boundaries as mean or wrong; start to believe that they’re a nonnegotiable part of healthy relationships, as well as a self-care and wellness practice."

"Burnout is a response to unhealthy boundaries."

"People don’t know what you want. It’s your job to make it clear. Clarity saves relationships."

"healthy people appreciate honesty and don’t abandon us if we say no."

"Discomfort is a part of the process."

"Visit the past, but don't stay there."

"Critical thinking is a threat to unhealthy systems, and questions make people think."

"It’s true that setting boundaries isn’t easy. Paralyzing fear about how someone might respond can easily hold us back. You might play out awkward interactions in your mind and prepare yourself for the worst possible outcome. But trust me: short-term discomfort for a long-term healthy relationship is worth it every time!"

"we victimize ourselves further when we let our fear prevent us from doing what we need to do."

"Fear is not rooted in fact. Fear is rooted in negative thoughts and the story lines in our heads."

"It may be hard to just listen without offering advice as people share their problems, but this is often the best support we can give."

"We simply can’t have a healthy relationship with another person without communicating what’s acceptable and unacceptable to us."

"Avoidance is a passive-aggressive way of expressing that you are tired of showing up. Hoping the problem will go away feels like the safest option, but avoidance is a fear-based response. Avoiding a discussion of our expectations doesn’t prevent conflict. It prolongs the inevitable task of setting boundaries."

"I'm always grateful to be on the starting line and grateful to see the finish line just like every other 30,000 runners out there. I'm just like them. The conditions are tough today, but it's just so great to be here."

"I think sports have this great opportunity to bring joy and happiness into a world that’s sometimes a bit uneasy and disappointing and sad. It’s a great responsibility and honor to hopefully inspire people to be the best versions of themselves. If there are enough people in the world bringing the best versions of themselves to their work and families and communities, we would hopefully arrive at a place that is better. It’s an honor to be part of a culture and part of a group of women in the United States that’s doing it the right way, full of passion and dedication toward their sport."

"At this point in my career I enter each race with a heightened sense of urgency and have become very selective in what races I'm willing to commit my time and energy to."

"I just feel like there is so much support and I want to do well for everyone else and it's the greatest motivator."

"She was pretty far back, but she is smart and was on splits that were good for her, and she trusted that there would be victims of the early pace, which there were,...She closed hard and it`s a style that she really enjoys. Her last kilometer was about 3:01, which is really fast. She ‘PRed` by 10 seconds and we are thrilled."

"Today was a tough day. It was going to be a war of attrition and I knew that from the gun. I figured if we're going to hurt we might as well run fast."

"I’m not an emotional person, but today was huge for me, I’m really proud of myself. You don’t get those moments too often, so I’m going to soak it in, be happy, then go back to being a competitor and try to take that next leap forward in racing down Boylston again. Today’s just as big as 2011 for me."

"I think it was the best race for me. I got everything out of myself so I'm very pleased."

"There was nothing wrong, I was in good shape. I felt good. I just ran really poorly. Two days ago (20 July 2012) I scared everyone and I cut it too close (in round 1). I am in good enough shape, but I have to realise there are more components to racing than putting one foot in front of each other."

"The race, I`m a little sad. The time, I`m like, Wow. I`m stoked,..I`m really happy about the time. I knew I had it in me. This is a place to pop this kind of PR. I`m really pleased with the time."

"My actual finish down the straightaway is something I`m proud of,...That kick isn`t going anywhere."

"What I was responding to more directly was the idea of having limitations. And that's something I have come back to in my practice. There's a lot of rhetoric about freedom out there, but ultimately, most people feel more free when there are certain parameters, and I think we are really unaware of that. We are always trying to abolish parameters and abolish rules. But actually, rules can be constructive sometimes. They can catalyze creative impulses."

"One of the problems that I have with the way the art world is structured is that there is this idea amongst artists that they have to wait for permission or validation. It makes no sense to me. It’s so interesting when you find artists who are making work, and who are putting it directly in the world."

"If you look at the larger historical evolution of architecture and domestic spaces, our homes are increasingly segregated and compartmentalized. It was the norm when I was growing up for each child to have his own bedroom. This is something that is historically quite new. I often wonder if it is the reason why it’s so difficult for adults of my generation, and those since, to cohabitate or have close interpersonal relationships. I believe that we have become so successfully individualized that it is difficult for us to live collectively."

"I am fascinated at how the things that set us free are also the same things that oppress us; you could say that the concept of the deserted island is both our greatest fantasy and our greatest fear."

"It’s good to have space to think. It’s in the empty moments when you’re the most creative."

"How to interface with the public is an ongoing problem in my work. I am always looking for a function that my work can play. There has to be a reason for it."

"Really good art simultaneously reveals both good and evil. It brings up complicated questions rather than proposing smug answers."

"Much of the movement for sustainable living is just another form of commoditization, which simply creates new levels of desire. I see many advertisements for people to get new and expensive eco-friendly products, but little of the current mentality has to do with thinking about actual needs. Do you really need a car? Do you need all the clothes? Do you need a new computer every two or three years?"

"What I've been seeing going on -- and it's exciting that it might be changing even though it will be painful -- is this whole culture driven by consumption on every level. Not just monetary consumption, but consumption of experiences and time. I feel that as a culture that most of us are incapable of slowing down and having a real experience. You keep thinking that if you get another house or take another vacation or that if you make more money, that it will free you up. But it becomes a larger and larger web of entrapment."

"I think what I'm trying to say with my work is that when you look at all of the norms and assumptions about daily living, how many of these are arbitrary and made up? I'm trying to show there are other ways of doing things, not just my way or that way. (I'm showing) there are oppositional ways of living, and I'm breaking that open a bit but with the assumption that people would see the flaws in my proposal and maybe come up with their own."

"Teaching is a way for me to have dialogue with other artists who are completely engaged."