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"My story wasnât unique â somewhere there is a teenage girl with a mother who suffers from mental illness and addiction, just trying to get through the day. Maybe seeing herself in this book will make life a little bit easier."
"When I was a kid, I never felt like I fit anywhere. I felt like an outsider in almost every situation, like an alien in my own family. There were times when being queer and closeted, when being Black and Puerto Rican, meant I felt hyper-visible and invisible all at once. You can see some of this in the book. I spent most of my adolescence hiding who I was, pretending to be someone else. There were times when I thought that what I wanted most was to be ordinary. An ordinary girl. And then something shifted. As I fell deeper into depression, as I got angrier and angrier, I thought an ordinary girl was the worst thing you could possibly be. It was much more about negotiating girlhood, a certain kind of girlhood, and what that meant. By the end of the book, thereâs an acceptance, as I embrace the kind of girl I was, and realize that these ordinary girls were capable of amazing feats. They saved meâtheir friendship, their love. They anchored me."
"This is who I write about and who I write for. For the girls they were, for the girl I was, for girls everywhere who are just like we used to be. For the black and brown girls. For the girls on themerry-go-round making the world spin. For the wild girls and the party girls, the loudmouths and troublemakers. For the girls who are angry and lost. For the girls who never saw themselves in books. For the girls who love other girls, sometimes in secret. For the girls who believe in monsters. For the girls on the edge who are ready to fly. For the ordinary girls. For all the girls who broke my heart. And their mothers. And their daughters. And if I could reach back through time and space to that girl I was, to all my girls, I would tell you to take care, to love each other, fight less, dance dance dance until you're breathless. And goddamn, girl. Live."
"The world isnât kind to black and brown girls, or black and brown women, especially when they come from working-class communities or from poverty. My girls taught me that itâs possible to make our own families, to find our families. They helped me believe in love and friendship and hope. But more than anything, after they had girls of their own, it was their girls who taught me the most important lessons: they helped me see the girl I wasâŚ"
"Because of anti-blackness in the United States and Latin America, most of us are either hyper-visible or invisible, or both simultaneously. So many people Iâve had conversations with donât even know that Latinxs are not a race or that black people exist in Puerto Rico (and throughout all of Latin America) and that we donât all look exactly the same. As a light-skinned black Boricua, Iâm often read as racially ambiguous, and because of colorism, I benefit from my proximity to whiteness. I think itâs our responsibility (those of us who benefit from light-skinned privilege or racial ambiguity or whiteness) to have a reckoning with race, to do the work to actively address institutional racism, as well as racism and colorism in our everyday lives, not just in the public eye. Otherwise, we are complicit."
"My origins as a writer started with my father loving books and, for me, reading about the history of Puerto Rico from my fatherâs books and learning about this very early. This history deeply affected me and who I became as a writer. But also feeling like this history has been for the most part erased. Itâs not something that weâre taught in school and itâs not something that Puerto Ricans or that Latinos learn, unless you go out and search for it. There are not a lot of resources. And, often when you find a history book, itâs not written by women, especially not women who grew up in poverty, so itâs not accessible to everyone."
"my dream would be to have an Ordinary Girls TV show that has a very inclusive writersâ room thatâs full of queer, Afro-Latina and people of color writers that prioritize and center our stories."
"I was in a state of rage, also. I was so angry and I couldn't really explain why. I didn't have the language for it. And so I turned to what I knew, I remembered the kind of woman my mother had been â in a lot of ways, I was acting out, I was performing the same thing."
"âŚas we become more alienated from the things we consume, especially while buying online, the out-of-sight,out-of-mind problem becomes more intense."
"Whether they're drinking wine in the evening or painting something "offensive," Iranians choose not to dwell on the fact that they could receive some seventh-century punishment. Laws are inconsistently enforced, and you can usually pay off police to look the other way."
"I believe their race and religious background shaped the way they were treated by the media⌠The willingness to blame them even though they were clearly victims was distressing."
"All of these types of abuses, whether theyâre human rights abuses, or environmental crimes, stem from a core problem, which is a lack of governance at sea, especially on the high seas. Specifically, there are three ways in which misbehavior happens offshore routinely and with impunity: too few rules, a lack of enforcement, and insufficient awareness of what is happening there. All of these problems are also connected in the sense that they occur with a certain tacit complicity from all of us who live on landâŚ"
"There is a saying that an injustice to one is an injustice to all. No one is truly equal and free until everyone is equal and free. When a society allows anyone to be treated as less than equal and therefore less than fully human, we not only rob those people of their full humanity, we also become complicit in their mistreatment. Sometimes people think they can look the other way as long as âtheir groupâ isnât harmed. But that is an illusion because we are all connected by our humanity, and as history has proven over and over again, harsh and autocratic power will inevitably spread like cancer to maintain itselfâŚ"
"U.S. history and China's history are very, very deeply - and in a complicated way - intertwined with each other over a few hundred years. And so there were times when that relationship was fraught with tension. But there were also times of great friendshipâŚ"
"I think I was politicized at age five, once I started noticing the beggars on the streets, and children my age who had to rummage through dumpsters looking for food. But since I grew up in a middle-class milieu where we were always told that "that's just how things are," it never occurred to me that the social order could be changed, much less that I could play a role in changing it. It was only in my teenage years that I understood things about class and inequity and how there was nothing inevitable about it. **On when she became politicized in "AN INTERVIEW WITH THRITY UMRIGAR" in BookSlut (January 2012)"
"⌠Wage theft, the intentional dumping of oil, shark finningâin each of those categories youâll find people who are the culprits, but if you really try to understand what makes them tick, youâll see that theyâre pretty desperate characters who are victims themselves of a larger, screwed-up systemâŚ"
"We often hear all this rhetoric of âspare the rod and spoil the child,â discipline and punishment, and I just donât believe in that. In all my years I havenât come across an adult who, because they got an excess of love as a child, grew up to be a not-so-nice person. In fact, I believe exactly the opposite is true. And this isnât rocket science, but I think that parents for understandable reasons sometimes forget thatâŚ"
"Writing was my way to make sense of the world outside and inside my home. Despite the recollections of the adults in my life, I don't think I was a terribly articulate child. Writing was a way to give wings to the inchoate emotions and feelings inside of me."
"One big difference Iâve noticed is how class is experienced in both places. Even though America is so class-stratified, the idea that there is a national culture that transcends class is really present. In Iran, despite the revolution and its attempt to eliminate class as a category, thereâs now political class. Thatâs different than social class, but itâs still very much infused with the nuance that comes from a class-stratified place."
"I always share this advice with my writing students: Tell the story of one person so deeply and completely, that in the act of going deep into that one person, something magical happens, and it becomes a universal story."
"My primary identity as a kid was being rejected by American societyâbecause youâre from another country, you canât possibly be Americanâand my parentsâ identity more as being Chinese, so I saw myself as ChineseâŚ"
"They go off to sea for nine months, theyâre sick half the time, bad things happen to them, they see others die. Then they come back home and they have not a cent in their account. The way it ruins these men in their very spirit is a crime thatâs horrific to see. And itâs hard to capture that in writing because wage theft, that term, is so boring. But on the ocean, itâs so pervasive and so ruinous that I would put it up there on par with putting men in an oven and cooking them slowly."
"A lot of Asian American parents are sort of like, Oh, Whyâd you stick your neck out? Youâre really going to getâyouâll be the nail that sticks out, then youâll get hammered down. Youâll bring trouble to yourself and to your family. And you know, thatâs not really the way it works. Itâs really the more you speak up, the more possibility [you have] for making a difference, for making a change, instead of suffering in silence. Itâs the only wayâespecially in a democracyâitâs the only way to improve conditions in your community, to make it betterâŚ"
"I think thereâs this cult of objectivity in the U.S. about media. There are two sides to every story, but itâs not always objective that one side has as much right to narrate a story. I think itâs distorting to always impose that 50-50 impulse on everything you cover because otherwise youâll be branded as âliberalâ or âhaving an agenda.â Life is not 50-50âŚ"
"Yes, he had been loyal to his friends, but even a wolf is loyal to other wolves."
"Technicalities are, however, of more interest to historians than to contemporaries."
"If such were the will of God, what wonder that so many had turned to the devil?"
"Treat a child like a witch and youâll have one."
"A fact will often show poor and plain in contrast to the leapings of imagination."
"Silence may have an eloquence of its own, but only in the long run."
"At such moments the voice of reason always sounds like blasphemy and dissenters are of the devil."
"People at large were not enjoying an intellectual awakening where so recently they had succumbed to superstitious panic."
"As every minister knows, a prayer is a superb device for airing an opinion."
"Being ignored was a therapy that had rarely been tried upon these girls."
"I think often, especially with immigrant narratives, or narratives from marginalized communities, there is room for only one narrative or that thereâs only stereotypes or statistics. A River of Stars does kind of show that we do have different histories, dreams, flaws, and ambitions, and I hope people are able to really see the fullness of the humanity of each character, whether theyâre major or minor."
"I think the American dream is still what gets us out of bed every day, that life can be betterâŚ"
"Characters, even though theyâre minor, shouldnât be a device. No person should be a device to move the plot along. Thatâs when you run into problems with stereotypes. I strive, in my journalism and my fiction, to make characters as complex and complicated as they are in real lifeâŚ"
"Fiction fosters empathy among readers by putting them in a position to consider deeply someoneâs history, hopes, and ambitionsâŚ"
"Itâs bad business meddling with the devil; it makes you superstitious."
"Few talk or think about Iraq these days; the media ignores this important but demolished nation. Iraq, let us recall, was the target of a major western aggression concocted by George W Bush, Dick Cheney and Britainâs Tony Blair, and financed and encouraged by the Gulf oil sheikdoms and Saudi Arabia."
"Most people donât understand that Iraq remains a US-occupied nation. We hear nothing about the billions of dollars of Iraqi oil being extracted by big US oil firms since 2003. For the United States, Iraq was a treasure house of oil with 12 per cent of the world reserves. It was OPECâs second largest producer."
"For those who donât like the American Raj, a US invasion of Venezuela would mark a step forward in the crumbling of the empire. More aimless imperial over-reach, more lack of strategy, more enemies generated. The big winner would, of course, be the Pentagon and military industrial complex. More billions spent on a nation most Americans could not find on a map if their lives depended on it, more orders for âcounter-insurgencyâ weapons, more military promotions, and cheers from Fox News and wrestling fans."
"It has always been hard to measure poverty, because poverty is as much a state of mind as a condition of material well-being. Still, we seem to have made a bad situation worse."
"A lot of us are afraid that weâll get found out as normal. The reason why bodyguards and velvet ropes really exist is mainly because a lot of celebrities donât want you to know how normal and regular they areâŚ"
"Russia and the West are at war â over fruits, veggies, pork and bank loans. The cause is Ukraine, a vast emptiness formerly unknown to the western world, but now deemed a vital national security interest worthy of a risking a very scary war. Economic embargos such as those launched by the US against Russia may seem relatively harmless. They are not. Trade sanctions are a form of strategic warfare that is sometimes followed by bullets and shells. Think, for good example, of the 1940 US embargo against Japan that led Tokyoâs fateful decision to go to war rather than face slow, economic strangulation... Frighteningly, today, there are senior officials in Washington and Moscow who are actually considering a head on clash in Ukraine between Russian forces and NATO â which is an extension of US military power. Intensifying attacks by Ukrainian government forces (quietly armed and financed by the US) against pro-Russian separatists and civilian targets in eastern Ukraine are increasing the danger that Moscow may intervene militarily to protect Ukraineâs ethnic Russian minority. A full-scale military clash could begin with a Russian-declared âno flyâ zone over the eastern Ukraine such as the US imposed over Iraq. Moscowâs aim would be to stop the bombing and shelling of Ukrainian rebel cities by Kievâs air force. Russiaâs leader, President Vladimir Putin, is under growing popular pressure to stop the killing of pro-Russian Ukrainians â who were Russian citizens until 1991."
"India and Pakistan, where people starve in the streets, waste billions on military spending because of the Kashmir dispute. Now some of Indiaâs extreme Hindu nationalists warn they want to reabsorb Pakistan, Bangladesh, and even Sri Lanka into Mother India. Previous Indian leaders have been cautious. But not PM Modi. He is showing signs of power intoxication."
"Dare I hesitate to say that creativity might be in jeopardy because one of the key components of being creative is boredom and silence and isolation."
"âŚHip-hop is an instant gratification, winners and losers circle, and often those who are losing give up after three or four, five years. Iâm probably trendier now as a 42-year-old than Iâve ever beenâŚ"
"I still donât know if I am truly creative...At times I feel like Iâm a way better student than I am teacher or maker."
"I jumped in the river and thereâs piranhas and sharks, but I have a 500-foot lead on them."