"In brief, when a man fails as a wallet, we put him in prison; when a woman fails as a mother, we offer her social services. We’re taking a criminal approach to men, a social services approach to women."

"As feminism made this transition from equal opportunity to unequal opportunism, I made my transition from supporter to critic. But in my inner psyche, there was no transition: I went from supporter of equality to supporter of equality."

"In brief, she is the partner to what primarily he creates; he is the visitor to what primarily she creates. To me, this wasn’t equality."

"The irony of primary parent laws is that on the one hand feminists were arguing for women’s equal rights to jointly-created career assets that emanated from the male financial womb, but arguing against men’s equal rights to jointly-created children that emanated from the woman’s child-bearing womb."

"I soon saw that feminists who supported the “Primary Parent Theory” were not in favor of equality of opportunity, but of unequal opportunism."

"Men for whom divorce means walking out of their children’s lives except when they choose to see the children are the male equivalent of the adolescent feminists: men who want options without obligations. Morally, they have no right to walk out. A law that allows that is similarly immoral. “Primary Parent” laws are just such laws."

"Healed people heal people."

"While recess provides the playground in which bullying may be found, it is also the laboratory for reducing bullying."

"The negative symptoms of the male culture are harnessed by the prescription drug culture."

"Love doesn’t eliminate defensiveness, because love creates vulnerability, and defensiveness is vulnerability’s mask."

"It is exactly this men’s health void that creates your son’s men’s health opportunity."

"Men with lower sperm count, even if they can reproduce, are likely to have a shorter life."

"One in five young men are not fertile."

"Traditional men make their sacrifices in significant measure in the hopes of being appreciated when they come home, and having their learning experiences integrated into their homes."

"Veterans create privilege for all those who have not had to serve."

"Many veterans are “rough, tough cream puffs.”"

"When a veteran internalizes that he’s failed to take personal responsibility, he is a step closer to suicide."

"In my forty-five years of forming men’s groups, I have never heard of a man who was actively involved in a men’s group being hospitalized for depression, or commit suicide."

"With confidentiality as the key, men’s groups open the door to men opening their hearts."

"When the National Association of Social Workers studies suicide, they study only female suicide."

"There is almost no difference in the percentage of men versus women experiencing depression."

"Suicide is contagious."

"Whether via forced unemployment, retirement, or loss of spouse, men’s response of suicide can just be the killing of what has already been killed."

"By age eighty-five, men’s suicide rate is 1,650 percent higher than that of women the same age."

"The male-female suicide gap in the United States has tripled since the Great Depression."

"The bully who is healed is the best protection for the bullied."

"Counterintuitively, when it comes to a loss of friendships and love, your son is the more vulnerable sex."

"The rate of PTSD among boys who moved to better neighborhoods was like the rate found among soldiers returning from combat."

"Between ages thirteen and sixteen, boys show a temporary decline in empathy on a biological level—a decline not suffered by girls."

"Compassionate listening positively affects the development of an adolescent’s brain in a way that affects the rest of his or her life."

"When a potential girlfriend hears a guy complain, it violates her instinct to be protected; but when a mom hears her son complain, it triggers her instinct to protect."

"You can easily feel judged and alone if you are the only one to understand that your son’s anger is the mask of his vulnerability."

"The more your son wishes to be part of the elite, the more he will abhor being pitied. Yet boys who join the elite today are often the ones who are pitied tomorrow."

"Even if a soldier lives, the risks of war come home with the warrior—that for every soldier killed, about twenty-five veterans kill themselves."

"Tackle football is using taxpayer money to risk the minds and bodies of only our sons before the age of consent."

"“Flag football is so much more about strategy. You can’t ‘take someone out’ with your body, so it’s more about your mind.”"

"Tackle football is a body-mind sport; flag football is a mind-body sport."

"We teach boys to associate being abused with being loved."

"Among former college players, 56 percent suffered from severe CTE pathology, which was associated with signs of dementia 85 percent of the time."

"Preserving the best of traditional masculinity should be a priority of parents because your son is preoccupied with the paradox of learning how to simultaneously fit in and stand out."

"We have taught boys that, while building strength is considered masculine, preventing its loss is feminine."

"If a good woman is killed, a man is to blame."

"Even if your son tries to use his power to save a woman, if he fails, that power will implode."

"If the life of a beloved woman—whether romantic partner or mother—is at risk, his life is at risk."

"Hollywood plants the seeds for male-only draft registration."

"The female superhero’s lack of sexual neediness makes her a “super” superpower."

"If your son is unclear as to what a highly powerful woman wants from him, he is more likely to go for a woman who is less powerful who has some need for him."

"Does the new heroine mean your son won’t have to risk his life for her love?"

"A desire to be nurtured is in our son’s nature. But it’s a nature we don’t often nurture."