"Many people today believe that cynicism requires courage. Actually, cynicism is the height of cowardice. It is innocence and open-heartedness that requires the true courage -- however often we are hurt as a result of it."

"There is a rhythm to the ending..."

"Loving someone is a loss of freedom -- but one doesn't think of it as loss because one gains so much else."

"Without sex it would be so easy to choose appropriate people to live with. Sex was the joker in an otherwise rational deck."

"Unhappiness is our element. We come to believe we can't function without it."

"Love is love, but marriage is an investment."

"...jealousy makes the prick grow harder. And the cunt wetter."

"They all cheat sooner or later. You might as well have one who isn't a bore the rest of the time."

"It takes a spasm of love to write a poem."

"Friends love misery... our misery is what endears us to our friends."

"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't..."

"And what if I don't want forgiveness?"

"The worst thing about jealousy is how low it makes you reach."

"Keeping a journal implies hope."

"My body was flesh, which was only one step removed from shit, from clay, from dust."

"Inevitably, I drank too much, talked too much, smiled too hard, swallowed back too much bile."

"How could one create life with someone who represented death?"

"Humor is a survival tool."

"I have had the experience of having my sister get up at a meeting at Columbia University, where these scholars from all over the world were anointing Fear of Flying as a classic. And my sister got up and said, "Erica Jong has ruined my life — with her books.""

"My advice to a young writer: Never give up. Read everything you can read — particularly the writers who move you deeply. Study how they do what they do. Read and read and read ... and write and write and write."

"Underneath it all, you longed to be annihilated by love..."

"Each one an antidote to the one that went before. Each one a reaction, an about-face, a rebound."

"The zipless fuck is absolutely pure. It is free of ulterior motives. There is no power game. The man is not "taking" and the woman is not "giving." No one is attempting to cuckold a husband or humiliate a wife. No one is trying to prove anything or get anything out of anyone. The zipless fuck is the purest thing there is. And it is rarer than the unicorn. And I have never had one."

"Pregnancy seemed like a tremendous abdication of control. Something growing inside you which would eventually usurp your life."

"I'm just trying to lead my own fucking life if I can manage to find it in all this confusion."

"Dancing is like fucking... it doesn't matter how you look - just concentrate on how you feel."

"I want you. I want you. I want you. Anything to avoid saying: I love you."

"The ultimate sexist put-down: the prick which lies down on the job."

"Silence is the bluntest of blunt instruments."

"I'm very dependant. I fall apart regularly."

"Sheer bitchiness can be a sort of style."

"It's only when you're forbidden to talk about the future that you suddenly realize how much the future normally occupies the present."

"Exceptional people are often called crazy by the ordinary world."

"Everyone's a little crazy when you get inside their head... it's only a matter of degree."

"I convinced myself that sadness and compromise were the ways of the world..."