Psychologists From The United States

"I love working with the World Business Forum [...] I find the participants uniquely engaged and optimistic – they’re really happy to be there and always eager to understand and apply what they’re learning about."

"The 'bold, confident' leader as someone who never asks for help, who has all the answers, who shows little emotion or compassion – they're a thing of the past,"

"A person's ability to be bold enough to take some personal risks and confident in a genuine, grounded way will, in my opinion, always be helpful to them in getting in the door and being heard."

"To have control over our own internal resources – so skills, knowledge, emotional intelligence, empathy – activates the behavioral approach system,” Cuddy notes. “It makes us more optimistic, able to take risks, create and be cognitively agile, courageous and even willing to protect or stand up for others when necessary. I think there’s a much greater focus on that kind of power today than there was 10 years ago."

"First, we have to define power: social or formal power is control over other people, their choices, their outcomes, and control of resources and decisions that affect other people,"

"I still see men using body language that conveys dominance rather than confidence, “Feet too far apart, speaking too loudly, looking as if they’re trying to control, not connect with, the audience. And that just doesn’t work."

"Effective body language conveys a combination of confidence (not dominance) and trustworthiness, "It tells people, 'I'm comfortable and I’m worth listening to,' and also, 'I respect you and I'm interested in learning about you and earning your trust.' It's body language that's less choreographed, less scripted and more responsive to what's happening in the present."

"Our nonverbals govern how we think and feel about ourselves. Our bodies change our minds."

"I introduced my AP Physics students to power posing last spring. One student in particular was always so nervous during assessments and therefore her test scores did not represent her abilities at all. We all know that old saying about correlation and causation — and this was no scientific study — but from that day forward that student power posed before every physics test and her grades went from high 'C's and low 'B's to where she belonged — in the mid to lower 'A's. I'm convinced that power posing helped her even if it is difficult to prove."

"A "homosexual" is anyone who experiences a sexual attraction to persons of the same sex. [...] "Gay" is a self identity chosen by some homosexuals, [...] the idea that homosexual behavior is as normal and natural as heterosexual behavior."

"The person who accepts the gay label in adulthood has typically spent much of his childhood emotionally disconnected from people, particularly his male peers and his father. He also was likely to assume a false, rigid "good little boy" role within the family."

"The pre-homosexual boy is detached, not only from father and other boys, but from maleness and his own male body, including the first symbol of masculinity, his own penis…Homosexual behavior is the search for the lost masculine self. [...] By the early teenage years, unconscious drives to fill this emotional vacuum – to want to connect with his maleness – are felt as homoerotic desires. The next stage will be entry into the gay world."

"Our subconscious processes do not recognize the “lesser of two evils” as a justification. Evil is still evil. To that one should add that the preconscious processes may define anyone who “causes” suffering, even “rationally justified” suffering, as evil."

"Decisions that negatively affect others, but that have adhered to all the requirements of rational self-interest, have been seen to result in serious emotional consequences for the decision makers. This regret, reluctance, and guilt, we argue, demonstrate the power of the justice motive."

"People, for the sake of their security and ability to plan for the future, need to believe they live in an essentially "just" world where they can get what they deserve, at least in the long run. It was further reasoned that being confronted with innocent victims of undeserved suffering poses a threat to that fundamental belief, and as a consequence, people naturally develop and employ ways of defending it. This may involve acting to eliminate injustices. But failing that, by blaming, rejecting, or avoiding the victim, or having faith that the victim will eventually be appropriately compensated, people are able to maintain their confidence in the justness of the world in which they must live and work for their future security."

"Decisions that were rational and justifiable according to social norms nevertheless have been known to leave the decision makers troubled by negative emotional consequences. These individuals, who have gone through great pains to act ethically and responsibly, may subsequently experience entirely unanticipated feelings of guilt, shame, and anger. Logically and ethically, by society’s standards they have done nothing “wrong,” and yet they are reacting as if they suddenly discovered they are responsible for someone’s undeserved suffering."

"When restoration of injustice is costly, people tend to deny injustice by blaming the victims or by minimizing their hardships and disadvantages. In this manner, BJW-based motivation merges with people's self-interest."

"Embrace confident humility: argue like you’re right, listen like you’re wrong."

"Authenticity without boundaries is careless. Authenticity without empathy is selfish."

"Time doesn't heal psychological wounds. Perspective does...Time creates distance. Reflection offers wisdom."

"Generosity is not a loan to repay or a debt to settle. It's a gift to appreciate. You reciprocate a favor by paying it back. You honor an act of kindness by paying it forward."

"If you've ever had a boss who one day had your back and then the next day stabbed you in the back, or vice versa, that's a lot more stressful if we look at the research, than just having the boss who you knew was gonna stab you in the back."

"Young kids have wider circles of concern than adults. Adults expect people to enjoy the misfortune of groups they dislike. But 3-5-year-olds expect people to care about everyone's suffering. Compassion is an instinct—we don't have to learn it. We need to stop unlearning it."

"I don’t think there’s any skill more critical for success than resilience...I think about resilience as the speed and strength of your response to adversity."

"Think like a scientist: treat your opinions as hypotheses and decisions as experiments."

"By mundane standards, it was a cozy little place, the sort that a real estate listing would call charming, meaning not quite as large as you’d like."

"It was exactly what I wanted, only once I was in it, I didn’t want it after all."

"We're all greedy, but children make it easier to be. We feel it's only right to give them everything we can grab, even when you know that anything you feed your own child still comes out of someone else's mouth."

"All of magic essentially involves sneaking something you want past reality while it’s distracted and looking the other way."

"I'd want to. If you want, I want."

"A crowd of women around me doing the ocean of women’s work that never subsided and never changed and always swallowed whatever time you gave it and wanted more, another hungry body of water. I submerged into it like a ritual bath and let it close over my head gladly."

"But hope is good strong drink, especially when you can get someone else to buy it for you."

"The only thing that had ever done me any good in my father’s house was thinking: no one had cared what I wanted, or whether I was happy. I’d had to find my own way to anything I wanted. I’d never been grateful for that before now, when what I wanted was my life."

"I am not your subject or your servant, and if you want a cowering mouse for a wife, go find someone else who can turn silver to gold for you."

"But the world I wanted wasn't the world I lived in, and if I would do nothing until I could repair every terrible thing at once, I would do nothing forever."

"A power claimed and challenged and thrice carried out is true"

"Thrice, mortal maiden,” in a rhyme almost like a song, “Thrice you shall turn silver to gold for me, or be changed to ice yourself."

"A robber who steals a knife and cuts himself cannot cry out against the woman who kept it sharp."

"She was safe for another moment, one more moment, and all of life was only moments, after all."

"Of course I was afraid. But I had learned to fear other things more: being despised, whittled down one small piece of myself at a time, smirked at and taken advantage of. I put my chin up and said, as cold as I could be in answer, “And what will you give me in return?"

"I love having existential crises at bedtime, it's so restful."

"You feel like it's going to rain."

"But I had not known that I was strong enough to do any of those things until they were over and I had done them. I had to do the work first, not knowing."

"“There’s no such thing as normal people, I said, a desperate flailing. “There’s just people, and some of them are miserable, and some of them are happy, and you’ve the same right to be happy as any of them—no more and no less."

"I should rather have you than a heap of gold, even if it were very comfortable to sleep on."

"When you speak the future, you shape the future."

"I think that a lot of anti-Semitism is historically a deflection of resentment of capital. It’s a deflection of that by the elite onto Jews, who are a convenient population to target. And this was something that happened in Western Europe and Eastern Europe, where the Jewish community became a piggy bank for rulers. These rulers deflected hostility from people who felt themselves being exploited but didn’t understand the system of exploitation."

"And I wasn’t old enough to be wise, so I loved her more, not less, because I knew she would be taken from me soon."

"Uprooted is very much about my mother’s side of the family, who were Polish Catholics. They were deeply patriotic and deeply rooted in their country...Spinning Silver is about my father’s family, and they were Lithuanian Jews who had to escape persecution—not just from the Nazis, but from their own neighbors."

"Young women aren’t allowed to be selfishly angry. They’re sometimes allowed to be angry in a sort of righteous way for other people, but they are often discouraged from being like, “This is unfair to me. I’m mad for me, and I want these things for me.” I think it’s really important for women to fight against the idea that they’re not allowed to want things for themselves."