"In the subconscious fantasies that make conception look so alluring, it is often ourselves that we would like to see …"

"Our children are not us: they carry throwback genes and recessive traits and are subject right from the start to envi…"

"Insofar as our children resemble us, they are our most precious admirers, and insofar as they differ, they can be our…"

"Difference unites us. While each of these experiences can isolate those who are affected, together they compose an ag…"

"When parents say, "I wish my child did not have autism," what they're really saying is "I wish the autistic child I h…"

""I'm not responsible for my child and who she's become, but I am responsible to her, and she is a wonderful person. I…"

"I started this book to forgive my parents and ended it by becoming a parent. Understanding backward liberated me to l…"

"A wise psychiatrist once said to me, "People want to get better, but they don't want to change." But I would propose …"

"I think all love is one-third projection and one-third acceptance and never more than one-third knowledge and insight."

"Most of the parents I interviewed for this book said they would never want other children than the ones they had, whi…"