"These qualities or skills are so well known that the list may even seem banal at first glance. Knowing what’s on the list is of no great consequence. It is having the skills and being able to apply them, having practised and internalised them, which makes a difference. And the difference which can be made is not at all banal, it is magnificent. It is the difference between living happily and just existing."
January 1, 1970
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