"My fantasies have never been safe ones."

"Fantasies aren't reality, I know, I know, I know. Except when they are. Except when you make them into reality."

"And fuck this, I didn't come out of years of fantasy, rescuing myself from a toxic parent and guilt-tripping myself t…"

"Fighting off a yawn (how rude), I wander past two girls earnestly discussing their upcoming scene. Red means stop. Ye…"

"What is happening to my sexuality? It's cold, it's pasionless, and what's worse, it's dull. John Preston was right. S…"

"This used to be about sex. The literature of my people was pornography, filled with cries for mercy, drama enacted on…"

"What goes on when people overfetishize safety is that they're relapsing into that old frame of mind that what we're d…"

"I can hear the whines — "But it's BAD to do these things without consent!" No fucking kidding. It's bad to conduct me…"

"The trouble is, SMers are allowing themselves to be defined by what they are not. We think, "Oh, so many people belie…"

"Fact is, I'm tired of being told what's OK for me. I'm fucking tired of multiple safewords, and sometimes I'm tired o…"